Self-perception and Love

I've heard the saying you accept the love that you think that you deserve. I had a conversation at Roosters after volleyball with the people who were there and that saying came to mind. There was a girl there who just recently got out of a relationship. Just hearing on why she was attracted to him even though he seemed like he needed to do some inner work; the smallest amount of affection was the reason she gravitated to him. She mentioned she felt seen by him and I can relate to that. She also mentioned that she lied to him so he didn't see her a certain way instead of telling the truth, In a way modifying herself to be liked more by him. I asked her why are you changing yourself for him, but she responded by saying "I want to cry". There was pain there and it hurts my heart. People will eat and drink things that are not good for them if they are thirsty or hungry enough.